Again, thank you.

I said a big thank you on this blog’s second anniversary, and now I thank you again.  It gives me added strength to stand taller and think more clearly when I have such a wonderful bunch of people surrounding me with a positive force — a force so powerful that I can feel it through all your words.

The good in this force is the same good that can help us to keep moving along the journey on which we have been cast.  I have no doubt that if we stick together and help each other onward, we can each live good lives again.  It may never be the same, and there will be potholes along the way – if you read through my blog, you will see some doozies I’ve fallen into, and I’m sure there will be more — but life can be good again.

We start this journey in constant pain and sorrow, but it doesn’t have to stay that way.  Not forever.  Seems like it sometimes, but it won’t be forever.  I think there will probably always be moments of pain and tears, and of doubt — oh, the doubts try to kill us — but there will again be room for joy and laughter.  It may not ever be the life we would have chosen, but it can be a meaningful and satisfying life again.

My daughter is handling things well, but she is glad for my presence.  And I am glad for yours.  I’ll be in touch.

Love you all,



12 thoughts on “Again, thank you.

  1. Teresa says:

    Praying for you and your daughter, DJ!! You’re a strong woman, I’m glad she has you for support during this time…that is at least one positive that comes from betrayal…we are all a lot stronger than we’ve ever been, and we have KNOWN pain that is gut wrenching and never ending…and in knowing and experiencing that, we can be a help and comfort to others who are also going through a hard, painful time in their lives.

    • Not Over It says:

      Thank you, Teresa! You are such a blessing here – to me and to many others as well.

      My daughter had surgery today. It went well. Hopefully everything will get better from now…

      Love & prayers,

  2. flacamama says:

    Prayers for you & your daughter., of course! I’ll keep checking in our your blog… as I know others will… so know we are still ‘with you.’ Don’t look back (trust that we are there) just go forward with your daughter.

  3. This is such a lovely, inclusive post. Each person who has written here, those that I have read anyway, seem to be trying to make a sincere contribution; it’s nice to acknowledge that.
    Teresa, I like what you said about being more capable of helping others having pain-emotional or physical, oneself. Seems to me to be one of the best ways to heal and move forward is to have this idea in mind.
    My thought for today is that our individual lives each can be imagined as a tapestry and when pain happens and can be included rather than taking over our identity- we become more beautiful having woven in a new thread.
    For the month of February, I have 3 posts on relationships-one on devotion, one on deepening a relationship, and one on making your loved one feel loved.
    Let’s all try to use the events in our lives to help us keep on growing (Pema Chodron talks about this)
    Best, Paula

    • Not Over It says:

      Thank you, Dr. Paula. I’m going to call you that since we have another Paula here. We are a great bunch, aren’t we? Such a blessing to be able to share and heal and even grow.

      I read those three posts – very good for my soul. Thank you again.

      Love & prayers,

  4. Teresa says:

    Thank you Paula…I have every intention, once I’m completely healed from my H’s EA, to tell others what I’ve been through, and to help them as much as I can.
    I’ve made a lot of mistakes during this “journey” and if I can help guide others to not make the same mistakes I have, then I will feel that what I’ve gone through has had a purpose.
    I truly believe that God can take something that was intended for evil, and use it for His good….and I intend to live that out in my life!

    • Not Over It says:

      It makes me smile to read that – victory is not just a destination at the end of our journey. When we walk with God, we walk in victory towards healing and renewal of spirit and mind. We will make it.

      Love you,

  5. DJ. I have not been reading posts lately and came here for a quick read and found this post. God give you strength so you can give all support your daughter needs. It is amazing our ability as mother to want to take our children’s place to ease their pain. This is the love that does not change, ever! And this love more you give, more it creates and it is just wonderful and fulfilling! I have tears in my eyes as I think of you both. I am praying for you and your daughter. Hope all is even better than when you wrote this post. I am sure your daughter has the same strength you have showed us here, after all she is part of you. God bless you both DJ. Wishing all the best.

  6. betrayalsurvivor1981 says:

    “Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning to dance in the rain.” -Author Unknown

  7. betrayalsurvivor1981 says:

    DJ, the above quote reminds me of You – pure love & strength! I’m still praying for your daughter and you! 🙂

    • Not Over It says:

      So funny you should say that – I have that very quote sitting right here on my desk! I saw it on a plaque in a Hallmark shop and just had to have it. 🙂

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