I made a rather insensitive remark to Cathmae yesterday, and she posted about it. It is a very insightful piece and I wanted to share it with you all.
Seems to me many of us are trained to think that one should remain in a relationship with a person one loves, because Love is, in and of itself, reason enough. I suppose I have held this belief in the past, and maybe had to think this way in order to stay married for as long as I did.
I know I was loved in my marriage. And? Does that fact excuse, eclipse or otherwise render meaningless the hateful behaviour I accepted for so long? And I know I loved Roger with my whole heart, but my willingness to participate in a dysfunctional relationship had less to do with that and more to do with a lack of self-love.
One of several blogs I, and it would appear many others, really love is Not Over It. Blogger DJ is a strong woman working valiantly to save a 30 year…
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