Many thanks to those who commented on Liberty’s situation. It has been good on so many levels. I have been reminded of some of the truths of dealing with infidelity. I have learned some new things, too. I have felt a sense of community and belonging that makes me feel that I am not so alone. It means so much.
Liberty would like to ask another question, so I’m going with it another time. Should she contact the OW? Boy, if that is ever a big question… here is what she wrote:
Hi everyone, I am glad that I am not alone and I’m sorry I am not alone! Because then no one would be unhappy. Let me ask another question of everyone ( hope it’s alright DJ) I am wondering what you all think of contacting the OW? Not to bitch at her or be mean but to see about finding out the story? Do you think they are honest in these situations? I have not done anything yet, not sure I even would but just wanted to throw it out and see if anyone has done it.
I am taking everyone’s advice to heart and trying not to be so down on myself.
I just struggle with wanting to ask my H the same questions over and over again, he’s answered them already, I don’t know what I am looking for? But, that’s the times I need someone to talk to but I have not told anyone about this so I have no one to tell me stop doing that!