Marriage therapy books and courses almost always have an exercise at some point where they tell you to look back and remember how you met, how you fell in love, and what you loved about your spouse. I have posted before about the day when we knew we were both in love with each other, but I have not yet posted about how we first saw each other. May 7 is the day we first kissed and we have always celebrated it, and I need to reminisce a little as the day approaches.
When we first saw The Titanic years ago, my husband said that the scene where Jack first saw Rose reminded him of when he first saw me. We were at college orientation. I was standing on the second floor deck of a building, leaning against the railing. My friends were making a ruckus about something or other, and I turned away from them to look out over the lawn. I’ve always loved nature, and it was a beautiful day. I soaked in the sunshine and took in the beautiful colors of the bright green grass and the deep green of the trees juxtaposed against a clear blue sky. Daniel (my husband) was walking on the grass beneath me. He said he looked up to see who was making all that noise (my friends) and he saw me standing there. He said he stopped in his tracks to look at me. His roommate later told me that when he got back to their apartment, he told everyone that he had just seen an angel, the most beautiful girl in the world. She could be Miss Universe. (I guess he’s always been a little delusional when he was attracted to someone.)
On the first day of class, in the first class of the day, he walked into his class and saw me sitting there. He froze for a moment, nervous and excited. He didn’t know what to do, so he went and sat in the front row. He didn’t focus very well on anything the professor said during the entire class, even though he was sitting right smack in front of him.
I was sitting with a friend when he walked into the room. I looked up at him and was entranced. So much so that my friend followed my gaze to the door where he was walking in. “Oh, he’s cute,” she said.
“He sure is,” I whispered.
Almost like a fairy tale… I wouldn’t say it was love at first sight, but we were both drawn to each other and excited by each other from those first moments. Even today, after all he has put me through, my heart still skips a beat when he enters a room. I still tingle when he runs his fingers down my arm. I still miss him terribly when he is away.
But I guess he doesn’t feel that way anymore. Miss Mousey Face (his OW) proved that.