Just wanted to express my sadness at the moment. My husband is away on a business trip right now – always a major trigger for me. But I decided to reach out and try to move forward, so I sent him a nice email saying that I had no doubt that he could take care of the problems at work, and that I missed him. As I pressed “send” I thought about how his OW used to send him all sorts of notes like that. I took a deep breath and said, “Stop!” in my head.
Then I got a text from a friend and I thought about our phone plan and how I got texting. My husband added unlimited texting to our phone plan as a birthday gift to me a few years ago. After D-day, when I was looking at the emails they shared, I found a set written the day after that birthday. He told her he couldn’t get the texting to work and that he was so sorry because he had promised her that he would be able to text on that day. She replied, saying it was ok and that she enjoyed hearing his voice anyway. He couldn’t get it to work because she lives in another country and he didn’t know at the time that our plan did not include international texting.
That just makes me feel so special – my birthday present was actually a present to her.